José María Contreras invites us to reflect on a topic that has intrigued many: Does the ideal partner exist? Instead of defining an ideal partner, Contreras takes a different approach by describing what an ideal partner definitely is not. This approach allows us to understand better the characteristics and behaviors that can be detrimental to a relationship.

1. Addictions and their consequences: One of the first warning signs in a relationship is the presence of addictions. Whether it’s addiction to drugs, sex, gambling, alcohol, or even emotions, these dependencies can seriously damage a person’s willpower. Willpower is essential to sharing one’s life with someone, as without it, the ability to commit and maintain a healthy relationship is compromised. Contreras emphasizes that a courtship is not the place for philanthropy or charity; If the intention is to help someone overcome their addictions, it is best to seek other forms of support, such as an NGO.
2. The influence of friends: Our partner’s friends can have a great influence on our relationship. If these friends are a bad influence and we don’t trust them, it is best to reconsider the relationship. Trust and mutual respect are fundamental to a healthy relationship, and if our partner’s friends don’t live up to these values, it can be a red flag.
3. Parental interference: Another red flag is excessive parental interference in the relationship. If a partner’s parents are overly involved and don’t allow freedom in the relationship, it is not an ideal match. It is important to set clear boundaries and respect each other’s independence.
4. Acceptance of the past: Acceptance of the other person’s past is crucial for a healthy relationship. If we don’t accept the other person’s past, it is not an ideal match. It is important to address this before making a commitment, as mutual acceptance is the foundation of a lasting relationship.
5. Lack of emotional serenity: Emotional serenity is essential for making clear and rational decisions. If you can’t think clearly and emotionally, you’re not an ideal partner. Emotional stability allows you to face the challenges of life as a couple more effectively.
6. Lack of willpower: Willpower is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship. If a person lacks willpower and continually lets their feelings get the better of them, they’re not an ideal partner. The ability to make conscious and responsible decisions is essential for a successful relationship.

The purpose of this article is to encourage readers to reflect on these aspects, without offering direct advice. Contreras encourages them to think critically about their own relationships and consider which characteristics and behaviors are truly important for a healthy and lasting relationship.